This is a touchy point because marriage is one of the last rituals we have. When you get married everyone in the world celebrates you for doing so. The relationship is legitimized as a serious thing, worthy of your efforts. Suddenly, you seem like a responsible person … a proper adult! It means you’re a desirable, together person because you “landed” a partner, right? Discuss …
“According to prevailing wisdom, a boy must be raised with a man in the house; otherwise, he’s bound to be a failure. That same wisdom tells us that mothers left to their own devices will smother their sons and turn them into sissies, and that sons of unmarried mothers are destined to a life of crime.” Raising Boys Without Men is an examination of these boys and their amazing mothers. Dr. Peggy Drexler’s research shows that boys raised without fathers are “socially savvy, generous, caring communicators, while still remaining extremely ‘boyish’—passionate about sports and adept at rough-housing with friends.”
SO! I am declaring myself a maverick mom pioneering a new form of parenting that rejects social judgment about family structure and stresses the importance of communication, community, and love. I am brave and I have much to say about a better way to raise tomorrow’s men!
Stay tuned …
“We are closing on the land on September 9 and are calling the building Digit,” Roumaya said. The rental flats will range in size from under 700 to more than 1,100 square feet in the brightly colored, four-story building. Rents will start at about $1,200 a month.
Architect Kevin Parma of Parmadesign designed the project. Digit and the Lorenzo Hotel, which is planned seven blocks north, will create new anchors along old South Akard.
“I now have five buildings along Akard,” Roumaya said. “It’s a community move. I’m doing place-making along the old Akard corridor, which I really love.”
Roumaya plans to break ground on his new apartment project late next month. He’s also working on plans to convert several old shipping containers into small commercial or residential spaces as part of the project.
Many times over the last two years (the amount of time I consider myself a single parent), I’ve been asked, “How do you do it?” I stay busy. Wait, what???? People generally want to know how I am so busy and make it work. I stay busy to stay sane. If I spend one moment in my own mind, my own thoughts, reminiscing about good times, or hoping for a better situation, I will lose it. I’ll break down. I’ll fall apart. I’ll cry.
I stay busy so I can stay focused. Stay driven. Stay determined. I stay busy to redirect my thoughts on positive messages. I stay busy to learn and grow. I stay busy so I can restore my soul. How do you restore yours?
Putting yourself out there is the only way you will grow and learn. I can do it some days. Others it’s a constant battle in my mind. How do I let someone truly know me without the fear of it being unrequited? That fear is always there, but you do it anyway.