How do you do it?

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How do you do it?

Many times over the last two years (the amount of time I consider myself a single parent), I’ve been asked, “How do you do it?” I stay busy. Wait, what???? People generally want to know how I am so busy and make it work. I stay busy to stay sane. If I spend one moment in my own mind, my own thoughts, reminiscing about good times, or hoping for a better situation, I will lose it. I’ll break down. I’ll fall apart. I’ll cry.

I stay busy so I can stay focused. Stay driven. Stay determined. I stay busy to redirect my thoughts on positive messages. I stay busy to learn and grow. I stay busy so I can restore my soul. How do you restore yours?

I struggle with this daily …

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I struggle with this daily …

Putting yourself out there is the only way you will grow and learn. I can do it some days. Others it’s a constant battle in my mind. How do I let someone truly know me without the fear of it being unrequited? That fear is always there, but you do it anyway.

It Ain’t Easy

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It Ain’t Easy

As the Summer comes to a close, I am reminded about many moments in time. In August 2010, my husband of 7 years filed for divorce. In August 2011, I left Dallas and went to Austin. In August 2012, I didn’t get the job I wanted, so I moved into a small apartment in Park Cities and restarted my Real Estate business. In August 2013, I heard a heartbeat. In August 2014, I began a new life as a single mother. In August 2015, I decided to become a Commercial Broker and start a Property Management Company. In August 2016, … ???

I do know this is the calm before the storm though. After the Fall Term at SMU, I will have 9 more required credit hours and it is mapped out. Research Methods, Independent Study, and Foundations of American Legal Systems. I will take a few extra classes because I can.

Through this process I have acquired the necessary skills to volunteer my time at the Dallas County Dispute Resolution Center as well as SMU’s Dispute Resolution Center. I mediate 1 – 2 cases a month between the two locations. I’ve been to Geneva and obtained a completion certificate from the University of Southern California for Arbitration. Four (4) more simple hours of property tax law videos and I can apply to the Texas Comptroller of Public Accounts to be on their Arbitrator Registry for homeowners in the entire state who would like to dispute their property tax increase.

I guess what I’m really saying is adulting ain’t easy, but it happens. Life moves along. We must learn to be flexible, adaptable, resilient, and focused. It takes daily reflection. As I sit here typing, my tiny toddler is on my lap with his head on my shoulder, completely relaxed. I have the most hope filled heart I’ve ever had. It ain’t easy, but it is rewarding.

Good luck out there!

Seriously Awesome Uptown Condo

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Seriously Awesome Uptown Condo

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Warning: The information appearing below may be difficult to read because …

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Warning: The information appearing below may be difficult to read because …

It hits a little too close to home – but here is the deal – there is no time like the present to make life better.

One of the biggest reasons people seek counseling is to help them better understand their approach to relationships. Apparently people who have a fear of intimacy often attract like kinds. We cannot give what we do not possess. Building self-esteem will help, but may require taking a break from dating. And having healthy boundaries means you love yourself enough to gracefully walk away.

 

Girl … you GOT this! #KickA$$SingleMom

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Girl … you GOT this! #KickA$$SingleMom

According to an article titled, “How Unwed Mothers Feel About Being Unwed Mothers,” more and more single moms are navigating uncharted territory. Lessons I am learning you might find helpful as you walk down the path with me …

1. Know for certain you have what it takes to successfully parent your child/children.

2. It isn’t selfish to prioritize your own needs; the stronger you are, the more you can do for them.

3. Empowerment parenting is the middle ground that allows you to get what you need while teaching your children responsible ways to get their needs met.

Ridiculously amazing and successful people who failed …

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Ridiculously amazing and successful people who failed …

(1) Albert Einstein – Einstein didn’t speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven. Eventually he was even expelled from school. He was the only one of his graduating class who was unable to find a teaching position because none of his professors would give him a recommendation.

(2) Abraham Lincoln – In his younger days, Lincoln went to war a captain and returned a private, which, for those of you not familiar with military ranks, is the lowest rank. Lincoln started multiple failed businesses, filed for bankruptcy not once, but twice, and was defeated in 26 campaigns for public office.

(3) J.K. Rowling – Before publishing her novels, Rowling was completely broke, suffering from depression. Rowling went from living off of welfare checks to becoming one of the richest women in the world in only five years.

(4) Walt Disney – Before his empire, Disney was working at a local newspaper. An editor of the newspaper fired him because, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Afterwards Disney started a couple businesses that ended in failure. He kept trying and kept learning from his mistakes and well, you know the rest: he lived happily ever after.

(5) Michael Jordan – Would you believe that Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team? But, he didn’t let that get in his way. He has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

(6) Stephen King – The very first book by King, Carrie, received 30 rejections and King ended up throwing it in the trash. His wife, Tabitha, convinced him to tweak it and resubmit, and now we have the amazing best-selling author, Stephen King.

My takeaways: Don’t let your peers be your sounding board, don’t let your circumstance be your situation, and don’t let the 49th “No” keep you from the 1st “Yes.”