“According to prevailing wisdom, a boy must be raised with a man in the house; otherwise, he’s bound to be a failure. That same wisdom tells us that mothers left to their own devices will smother their sons and turn them into sissies, and that sons of unmarried mothers are destined to a life of crime.” Raising Boys Without Men is an examination of these boys and their amazing mothers. Dr. Peggy Drexler’s research shows that boys raised without fathers are “socially savvy, generous, caring communicators, while still remaining extremely ‘boyish’—passionate about sports and adept at rough-housing with friends.”
SO! I am declaring myself a maverick mom pioneering a new form of parenting that rejects social judgment about family structure and stresses the importance of communication, community, and love. I am brave and I have much to say about a better way to raise tomorrow’s men!
Stay tuned …
“We are closing on the land on September 9 and are calling the building Digit,” Roumaya said. The rental flats will range in size from under 700 to more than 1,100 square feet in the brightly colored, four-story building. Rents will start at about $1,200 a month.
Architect Kevin Parma of Parmadesign designed the project. Digit and the Lorenzo Hotel, which is planned seven blocks north, will create new anchors along old South Akard.
“I now have five buildings along Akard,” Roumaya said. “It’s a community move. I’m doing place-making along the old Akard corridor, which I really love.”
Roumaya plans to break ground on his new apartment project late next month. He’s also working on plans to convert several old shipping containers into small commercial or residential spaces as part of the project.
Many times over the last two years (the amount of time I consider myself a single parent), I’ve been asked, “How do you do it?” I stay busy. Wait, what???? People generally want to know how I am so busy and make it work. I stay busy to stay sane. If I spend one moment in my own mind, my own thoughts, reminiscing about good times, or hoping for a better situation, I will lose it. I’ll break down. I’ll fall apart. I’ll cry.
I stay busy so I can stay focused. Stay driven. Stay determined. I stay busy to redirect my thoughts on positive messages. I stay busy to learn and grow. I stay busy so I can restore my soul. How do you restore yours?
Putting yourself out there is the only way you will grow and learn. I can do it some days. Others it’s a constant battle in my mind. How do I let someone truly know me without the fear of it being unrequited? That fear is always there, but you do it anyway.
As the Summer comes to a close, I am reminded about many moments in time. In August 2010, my husband of 7 years filed for divorce. In August 2011, I left Dallas and went to Austin. In August 2012, I didn’t get the job I wanted, so I moved into a small apartment in Park Cities and restarted my Real Estate business. In August 2013, I heard a heartbeat. In August 2014, I began a new life as a single mother. In August 2015, I decided to become a Commercial Broker and start a Property Management Company. In August 2016, … ???
I do know this is the calm before the storm though. After the Fall Term at SMU, I will have 9 more required credit hours and it is mapped out. Research Methods, Independent Study, and Foundations of American Legal Systems. I will take a few extra classes because I can.
Through this process I have acquired the necessary skills to volunteer my time at the Dallas County Dispute Resolution Center as well as SMU’s Dispute Resolution Center. I mediate 1 – 2 cases a month between the two locations. I’ve been to Geneva and obtained a completion certificate from the University of Southern California for Arbitration. Four (4) more simple hours of property tax law videos and I can apply to the Texas Comptroller of Public Accounts to be on their Arbitrator Registry for homeowners in the entire state who would like to dispute their property tax increase.
I guess what I’m really saying is adulting ain’t easy, but it happens. Life moves along. We must learn to be flexible, adaptable, resilient, and focused. It takes daily reflection. As I sit here typing, my tiny toddler is on my lap with his head on my shoulder, completely relaxed. I have the most hope filled heart I’ve ever had. It ain’t easy, but it is rewarding.
Good luck out there!
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It hits a little too close to home – but here is the deal – there is no time like the present to make life better.
One of the biggest reasons people seek counseling is to help them better understand their approach to relationships. Apparently people who have a fear of intimacy often attract like kinds. We cannot give what we do not possess. Building self-esteem will help, but may require taking a break from dating. And having healthy boundaries means you love yourself enough to gracefully walk away.